Tuesday, January 18, 2011
A few days after that we left for our cruise from Ft Lauderdale, through the Panama Canal to San Diego and I honestly did not even think of cold weather, let alone snowflakes. (Apart from yours, Esther).
It was simply wonderful to be away, Steven was going to keep the shop for us, and he was and is doing very well still, as was everything else in our lives.... So I left with a clear and unleaden heart. At night, long after everyone had deserted the top deck, I would walk around up there in the crisp, clear night talking to myself and the ocean and enjoying the total lack of people and human sounds. The bows of the ship, Celebrity Constellation, parted the ocean waves almost effortlessly, creating a swishing, shooshing bow wave that soothed my soul even further. All of you were so often in my mind, especially during those lovely quiet walks and thoughts and wishes still swish around on those moonlit waters.
And then we came home again to reality in so many ways. Tyler passed away soon after we got home and Steven's pcr test is due again next week and the hurt from others that are no longer here was still evident in many different ways in the emails and catch ups I did.
And so the Snowflake came to mind again. That day I had a black piece of plastic lying outside to catch the snowflakes. You see, sometimes snow falls in these beautifully shaped, unique flakes but it seems to me that much of the time the snow is just..... well, clumps of uninteresting ice pieces. Sometimes they are little round balls, sometimes tiny toothpicks and sometimes a scrambled mess - almost indescribable..... but this day there were many perfect flakes floating down on our world.
I dont think that many people actually look at what type of snow is falling...so I called Steven outside to get a closer look too.... It's like being in a different world when you see all those flakes gently landing on that black plastic. Its quite incredible to think that something as beautiful and special as this snow flake was made and then survived the fall to earth to land right there at the tip of my lens. I find myself becoming totally involved in hunting the next beauty and I even forget to be cold at times.
If the temperature changes just a very little bit, that beautiful flake would not form at all. Just a degree or two makes a difference between the creation of something stunninly beautiful, or not. I dont know what the temperature it has to be to create this perfection, but I do know that when the tiniest thing changes, that flake stops being. Just stops. If I breath too close to it or if I stand in the way that shelters it from the wind, it disappears in the blink of an eye hardly even leaving a tiny puddle.
And this got me thinking on life and just how tenuous it really is. This leukemia, cml, is formed by something really small in the dna changing and messing up (no technical terms right now), just something so small creates all this mess in our lives. I wonder just how small the change was that started the ultimate undoing of Tyler and Adrian and ...so many others too.
I know that there probably is very little chance that we will be able to cure all cancer, or to stop it from getting out of control, and I know that sadly many many more people will not survive their cancers and other illnesses. And this thought, pictured together with that short lived snowflake, makes it so clear just how important it is to let those you love know it. Loud and clear. It makes it clear just how important it is to live our lives 100% every day, to look for the joy, the beauty and the love in as many moments as possible. All too soon something will change, or the change will tip us into something unstoppable where we cannot enjoy life as we now know it.
And like this snowflake that will now live forever as a photograph, the many people who are no longer with us, will keep living in our souls and in our memories as unforgettable and as beautiful as a once in a lifetime snowflake. Each one of them uniquely precious forever...
Go hug someone - tell them you love them. Call them, write them, txt or email them.
love and light